“What makes you boring
is how you think of yourself, your failure to frame things in the right way,
and how to hold a conversation - treatrelationships”
One thing I have observed in ladies is their hatred for
boredom especially if it is caused by their partner. They love an interesting
man who will always make them long for more time to see and chat.
Imagine if you are in a relationship and anytime you have a
discussion with your partner you always get short answers from him/her. This will make the relationship boring and lack the essential ingredient for growth.
For example,
You: Have you eaten?
Your partner: No
You: why have you decided not to take something?
Your partner: Nothing
You: Is everything okay?
Your partner: yes
If you are in such situation, you will get tired and bored
easily because the answers are too short and don't give a room for further
lively and interesting discussion.
Below are the top 5 things that can bore your partner
1. Your response is always “yes” or “no”
These two answers are very boring because they show how dry you are. At least, one of the purposes of communication is to initiate
intimacy and the growth of the relationship. You will bore your partner a lot
if you lack the skill to take every of your discussion further or to shed
more light on it. However, this doesn’t mean you should be talkative.
2. When you have no hobby
Lack of hobby is one of the reasons why some people are
boring. Having no spare-time activity that you engage in can limit your
communication ability. I always consider partners who share the same hobby as
fortunate because they will have a lot to discuss outside each person’s normal
activity.
3. When you are afraid to express yourself
Fear kills self-confidence and also makes you unnecessarily
mute. You can’t enjoy your relationship if you are always afraid to express
yourself and this will make you bore your partner a lot.
4. When you are predictable in terms of what you do and say:
nothing new about you. For instance, if you are the type that complains a lot
or like to talk about yourself, chances are high that you will bore your
partner. Because he/she knows that when you are with him/her, you have nothing
except to complain or talk about yourself.
5. When you are not willing to break out of your comfort zone
This happens when you are too comfortable with where you are
and you aren’t willing to explore new experiences. The more you explore the
more interesting you become and develop the skill to frame things in the right
way during a conversation with your partner.
Lastly, all listening and no talking, or all talking and no
listening will make you bore your partner 1000000 times.
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