A broken home is defined as a family in which one parent is absent, usually
due to divorce or desertion. This article will focus on broken homes caused by
divorce. The rate of broken homes in marriages is becoming alarming as the
number of people from broken homes is increasing by the day. Whereas family is
said to be the first institution where one starts to equip oneself to grow. In
addition, the home is meant to be a place filled with joy, happiness with a lot
of guaranteed security and comfort. Everyone dream of homes filled with joy,
healthy and happy. But different problems have led to a broken home. And these
have an adverse effect on members of the family especially the children.
Causes of broken home
Lack of effective communication
Lack of effective communication will always lead to misconceptions and conflicts between
couples. Effective communication helps the family to stay united because
importance issues are discourse and problems are solved during the discussion. When
there is a lack of communication, partners tend to be secretive in their
attitude: they will never share their feelings about any issue with their
partners.
Abuse
The rate of abuse at homes is alarming and it has led to broken homes. Some
men see their wives as slaves putting all duties especially the house chores on
them. Moreover, some men beat their wives.
Influences
Parental and friends influence on marriage as led to the high rate of broken
homes in our society. This influence is a threat to the oneness of the home.
Read: Reasons for breakdown in Marriages
Effect of broken homes
The effect of broken homes on children as made a lot of them to lose interest
in life and in relationships. Some of the effects of broken homes are discussed
below:
Warped relationship
Warped relationship means distort from the true meaning of a relationship.
They see a relationship as their source of hardship and sorrow. Thereby making
some girls believe that all men in their lives would act like their father and
eventually leave, so they close up to most relationships. Moreover, the boys
can’t see commitment as a requisite for a relationship. So a lack of true
meaning of relationship will make them walk out of any relationship as they
like.
Educational
Most children respond better and quicker in school if the home front is
peaceful and loving, but where the home is in disarray, the child loses
concentration at school. Self-doubt and lack of confidence at school is a result
of broken homes. Additionally, the performance of these children in their
studies is always low.
Emotional instability
Emotional instability refers to
rapid changes in mood, where strong feelings (uncontrollable laughing or
crying, or heightened irritability or temper) occur. One of the causes of
emotional instability is a broken home. Children from a broken home sometimes
show heightened irritability or temper because of the abandonment of the father
or the mother. Some children act out their distress about their broken family
by acting aggressive and by engaging in bullying behavior, both of which can
negatively affect peer relationships. Other children may experience anxiety,
which can make it difficult for them to engage in beneficial activities.
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The major reason discord and divorce should be avoided in marriages
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