It is now becoming common for people to
experience resistance from their partner’s parents. And this is causing a lot of
threat to the wellbeing of their relationship despite the love they have for
each other. Some ladies were so unfortunate that they were resisted the first
time they paid their potential in-laws a visit. I believe that for every
resistance there is always a reason.
You may not be able to know what to do until
you get the reason(s) why your parents resisted your partner. The funniest
thing is that they don’t even want to know how much you love him/her if he/she
has been resisted. If you really love your partner, it is your duty to find out
why they have decided to act in such way.
Somebody asked a question about the
resistance he receives from her partner's family. And this is the question “How
do I let go of someone whom I love so much and the reason for our partying is
his family’s resistance towards me due to my health?” This question has shown
the reason why he was resisted by her partner’s family. And I believe the lady
think through the reason given by her parents before she decided to leave the
It will be unwise not to know the reason(s)
but jump into conclusion that your parents hate your spouse. And don’t because
of their resistance think they are evil or not interested in seeing you happy
with your relationship. You must be able to get the fact before you make a
The steps to take if you find yourself in
this situation are:
1. Walk up to your parents
Walking up to them will suggest to them that
you value their opinion. Then tell them why you have decided to love and stay
committed to your partner. Moreover, let them know how good she/he is, his/her
family background, and everything you think they need to know about your
The next thing is to ask them their own side
of the story about your partner. Try to know their fear and why they think
he/she isn’t right for you.
2. Think through and analyze their fear and
In some cases, their reason(s) may be
genuine, and in another, it may not. Some of the most common reasons are
i. Tribal sentiment
ii. Health – For examples, genotype has been one
of the major reason why some parents show a level of resistance.
iii. History/background – If you parents happen to
know about the family background of your partner and they are not satisfied,
they may likely resist him/her.
iv. Character or human relation – Some parents
are very smart to detect a deceptive partner or someone with a bad character.
And if they noticed an unhealthy behavior with your partner they may likely
v. Financial status – Men who are financially
broke have tendency to experience resistance from their partners’ parents
vi. No reason – This is when they don’t just want
to see his or her face: they just dislike him/her.
If you have thought about their reason(s) and
you discovered they are not enough to resist your partner then you will have to
go to your parents again and convince them to accept your partner. It is
important your parents are in support of your relationship, by doing so, you
are honoring them and you will attract their blessing.
However, if their reasons are genuine and
need to be given further consideration then you shouldn’t throw their
suggestion away. It will not be healthy for you if your partner is deceptive
and your parents detected that but you are ‘blinded by love’ to go against
If you are still having issues with your
parents accepting your partner you can consult the nearest