The
story I’m about to tell is a true life story of a couple whose marriage was
blissful at the beginning but has experienced a shocking break-up after years
of marriage. It was a shock to me because I couldn’t believe such marriage
could break up so easily.
I
am of an opinion that no relationship is all sunshine, but two people can share
one umbrella and survive the storm together. This can only be true if there is
mutual understanding, perseverance, determination, and endurance by the couple
to make the relationship a success. A relationship is not meant to cause
inconvenience to anyone but to make two people come together to achieve a
definite goal in life. And a goal can be achieved if you and your spouse agreed
to work as a team.
There
is a man called Ade and his wife Ada, they have three children namely Bimbo,
Tito, and Segun. Ade loves Ada so much and also Ada reciprocated the love. They
love to do things in common and an example was a business they ran together. The
business thrived that the family budget was ran by it, although, Ada was more
engaged because Ade is physically challenged. However, Ade was the one that
conceived the business idea and the founder of the business.
Everything
was going fine with the family; in fact, they are Christian who are very active
in the church. They have helped so many people that have challenges
educationally and also love praying for people. Their children are healthy,
loving, and good looking because of the maximum peace they enjoyed at home.
In some couple of years, the marriage begins to experience some cracks but it was left unattended to
early until it became an issue that led to their separation. Ada's side of the
story was that Ade demands sexual activity a lot and that is all he ever thinks
about. She felt she can no longer cope with that demand and that the demand is
making her life miserable. The husband's need was what led to a break-up and
the reason why Ada demonized her husband.
Although,
it is possible for a woman to have difficulty to satisfy a man’s sexual need
when the man is sexually active or too demanding, this issue wouldn’t have led
to a breakup it if has been nipped in the root. What she needs to do is to
understand her husband’s sexual need when their marriage was still young and
look for how it can be met without being burdensome to her. In any
relationship, there is a need for you and your spouse to adjust as need be.
Recommendations
for couples
1. It
is very important that every problem must be identified and solve early in a
relationship before it gets out of control.
2. You
must not give up on one another regardless of each other's flaws.
3. You
and your spouse must not stop doing the things that made your relationship
blissful at the beginning.
4. Forgiveness
is essential for every successful marriage.
5. Try
as much as possible to make your home peaceful.
Note:
The names above are fictitious
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