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You can love again despite your past hurts

The hurts or wounds of the past may have a grave effect on one’s life if it’s not allowed to heal. Our heart is the seat of productivity. Anything that affects the heart will affect the entire being. That is why it is important your heart should be guarded diligently and you should pay close attention, so as to heal whatever wound that it might have experienced. The heart can be wounded in different ways but I will be discussing the one that is related to my discussions on this platform i.e. relationships.
You can agree with me that as relationships can be good and adventitious, it can be hurtful if you aren’t matured emotional, mentally and socially before you enter into it. However, you shouldn’t avoid it because of some dangers it may pose if not handled properly. All you have to do is to think of your wellbeing when going to any relationships. Moreover, you shouldn’t afflict yourself or put yourself in agony in the name of “love”.

Tiredness, boringness, frustration and hopelessness in the midst of liveliness are symptoms of past hurts. The ability to share your past to people to learn is a sign you are liberated. How long will you keep yourself in this mess? Your song has been all guys are bad, they are cheaters etc. Has your love life shattered that you can barely trust again? There is a great future ahead; you just need to heal yourself of past hurts. In addition, hurts have a way of changing your perception and view about love and life. Also, hurts can make you think everybody is evil or that life is miserable. This kind of thought will deprive you of joy and happiness.

In spite of the hurts, you can still love again if you desired to be healed. It requires that you acknowledge that your heart has been wounded and you desire a change before help can come. Some of the steps you have to take are:


For you, to experience happiness, you must forgive your offenders. Although, it may look impossible to do because of the extent of damage they might have caused. However, you have to forgive for your peace to be restored. According to Martin Luther King, Jr. “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies”. Moreover, change your mantra to “I forgive all my offenders. I refuse to be depressed. Love flows in my heart etc. Try to coin a good mantra for yourself and you will see how drastic your life will change.

Be thankful

Be thankful for every good thing around you in spite of their size. You have everything to be thankful for. So be thankful.


Testimonies give assurance that victory is sure if we didn’t give up. Listen to testimonies from people that have passed through a similar situation and learn how they sail through.

Consult a counselor

Counselors through their experience have answers to problems when you consult them. Problems sometimes may look alike but may require a different approach to solving them. No matter the peculiarity of your hurt, it can be addressed if you consult them.