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When to say "yes" to a relationship proposal









Yes is a strong word for commitment. Commitment is the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action. Barbara De Angelis said, “When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship”. Every relationship started with the word “yes” to show a readiness to start a relationship. That is why everybody must understand that as simple as the word (yes) is, a commitment has been made by you to your partner.  In recent time, the word has been abused because people use the word without knowing that they are making a commitment via that word.


Moreover, a guy wanted to hear the word “yes” after his proposal likewise a lady wants to hear yes when she asked a guy that “do you love me”. The word goes deep into the heart of lovers because it is an affirmative word. It is also a word of assurance in relationships. The word “yes” has a potency of changing the atmosphere and springing forth joy when it is uttered.


However, you must engage in a deep thought before uttering the word at any request. A man will definitely want to hear the word “yes” after his proposal to you. So you must check your heart before you make a commitment to love.  You must understand what love is and be sure he actually loves you before you make a commitment. For you to authenticate his love, you must understand that:


Love is patient
Love is kind
Love is not selfish
Love is thoughtful
Love is not rude
Love is not irritable
Love believes the best
Love is not jealous
Love makes good impression
Love is unconditional
Love cherishes
Love takes delight
Love intercedes
Love promotes intimacy
Love seeks to understand
Love is responsible
Love sacrifices
Love encourages
Love endures
Love fulfills dream
Love is accountable


You must think through what I have listed as “what love is” before you can give your consent. Regardless of how strong your emotion is, remember that love is thoughtful. You must give thought to his proposal before you commit yourself by saying “yes”. Love isn’t irrational and doesn’t deny the evidence. So if you are surrounded with reasons why you shouldn’t accept the proposal, you must not allow your emotion to override the evidence.  It is so annoying when the evidence stares at you but all you could say is that I will change him. You can’t change a man that is not ready for a change. Change is a personal decision. Carol Burnett said “Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me”. You can’t change him; he is the only one that can change his life.


For every investment, there must be a dividend. So don’t go into a relationship that will make you lose or complicate your life. Remember that you will invest time, attention and energy in a relationship and I believe you will not want it to end in regret.
Be thoughtful before you say “yes”





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