Does wedding vow holds water?

Wedding vow is the words spoken by the couples to each other which express intent, a promise, and a commitment. The words are powerful and potent to hold the couples together if each word is carried out. Although, most couples don’t even know the meaning of the vow, hence, the words become meaningless. A vow has become more of lip talk than heart talk.

Why should I make a vow I wouldn’t be able to keep? This is question of integrity. Integrity means your word and action are in agreement. There is a saying on integrity, Be Impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

A wedding vow has become like every other vow or pledge. It is just about the talk and no longer the intent, promise and commitment. For example, a politician will take an oath of office:” I pledge to be faithful, honest and I will to the best of my ability, preserve, protect and defend the constitution of the country”, but he will be the one to violate every of the oath he has taken. The same is true for a wedding vow. It is always violated by either the man or the woman.

A view of a church wedding’s vow:

Groom and Bride

I, groom’s name and bride’s name, lay down my life for you that the two of us may come together into one entity under the lordship of Jesus Christ towards the fulfillment of every single purpose of God for our lives

I promise to have and hold you, cleave to and live with you, love, cherish and encourage you until our days and ministry here on earth are fulfilled according to God’s Holy Law and ordinance, and this is my solemn vow.

I do solemnly pledge that I will be a true wife or husband to him or her. Loving, honoring, cherishing, comforting and caring for him or her for the rest of my life, keeping to him or her alone as you both are alive until God by death shall separate us.

Every of the word above is for the couples to be committed. It is not meant for unserious couples who are not ready to get committed and fulfill the vow.

Wedding vow can only hold water if every word spoken is carried out. But if not, it turns to a basket that can’t hold water. It is the duty of the man to lead by example in this matter because the leadership of the home is in his hands. And the wife will respond positively if she sees a commitment on the part of her husband. Most problems do arise when the leader (husband) is bad. The supreme quality for leadership is unquestionably integrity. Once integrity is lost on the part of the man, the home will be in jeopardy.

Dear husband, genuinely love your wife. And Wife, submit to your husband and give him peace at home.