As sweet as a marriage can be, it can also be a source of
sorrow and agony if the sweetness has become sour. The sourness may be because
some things went wrong and unchecked. For this reason, the home becomes a hell
for the wife or the husband.
This article is about what some women are passing through in
their matrimonial home. Some of them are our friends, sisters, aunts, and
relatives who no longer see life as interesting because of what they are passing
through in their marriage. They are living corpse who has lost all hope of ever
having a happy home. Their husbands deserted them because of some reasons which
may include a newly found love.
Husbands, why did you prefer to leave your wives and
children to follow a strange woman?
Some of the stories I have heard on some of the sufferings
women pass through in marriage are tragic. A friend narrated a story of a woman
whom her husband left with a disabled son. Actually, the son became disabled as
a result of an illness. The illness wouldn’t have resulted in such condition if
the father has been responsible and around with his family. He was on his usual
outing looking for a love, left the home for many weeks and was unable to
attend to issues in his home. The woman was unable to prevail over the
situation because she was incapacitated financially. In fact, she tried her
best possible but the illness had a great effect on their son. Every now and
then the wife fast and pray to God so as to change the heart of her husband.
Dear husband, why must you be a prayer point of your wife at
all time? Are you so inhumane?
That family has three children and the wife is the one taking
responsibility of the children. Our culture in Nigeria does stigmatize any
woman that divorce. So divorce is not an option for Nigerian women because of
fear of being stigmatized. And that is why they endure a lot in an abusive
marriage.
The next story is about a man that regularly beats his wife
and turns her to slave. Not only that, he sent his wife and the children
packing.
Husband, why have you forgotten, the wow you made to her?
You said through thick and thin you will be there for her. Don’t tell me the wow
of love is to deceive everyone present on your wedding day and not actually
from your heart. Why did you make her world to crumble because of your selfish
lifestyle?
There are different reasons why some men decide to engage in
such a heartless decision. Some of the reasons are:
1. Searching for a male
child
This looks funny because it is the man gene that decides the
sex of the child. Why have you put the blame on the woman?
2. Infidelity on the
part of the man
3. When he feels he
married wrongly and no longer compatible
4. When the woman no
longer interest him
None of the reasons above are genuine enough to make your
wife and children go through the emotional stress. You have turned them to a
destitute. Even if you think the strong emotion you had for you wife had run
off, fake the emotion for the sake of the family until the emotion comes back.
Always consider your wife and children in every of your decision. Everything shouldn’t
be about yourself; try to make a sacrifice for your family. Even, if it means
giving your life for them. Life is about sacrifice and the same should be true
for marriage.
Love is a decision and not a reflex action. Most of what
some people call love is a reflex action: they think they have no control over
it because it is a reaction to a stimulus.
Dear husband, decide to love your wife and the emotion will
follow. Regardless of your reasons, Love her and make life worth living for
her.
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