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5 reasons you are still single until now

You may desire marriage but your level of understanding on how to attract the right suitor may be low. It has become a concern to you on what to do to save yourself from singlehood. You are in your late 30s or early 40s and you are losing your peace because nobody seems to be interested in you. Although, it isn’t a crime to be single but if you desire marriage, you must do something about it. I will highlight here some points for you to consider:


If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude ~ Maya Angelou

Attitude is a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior. Your behavior has a direct link to your thought life. Maybe you have been into few relationships that weren’t successful and you wonder why it hasn’t led to marriage. It may be that your behavior led to the crash of the relationships: maybe you nag a lot or your dress sense wasn’t good, you easily pick up a quarrel, you lack the grace to say sorry when wrong etc. Only if you can engage yourself in retrospect of your past relationships and you can come up with what may be wrong with your attitude. I am not trying to say that relationships that ended up in marriage have partners with the perfect attitude. There are attitudes that can be overlooked or condone but some don’t just fit with marriage. A statement like “she isn’t a home material or he isn’t a man enough” is prevalent when you don’t suit your partner’s taste.

People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude ~ John C. Maxwell”

Past hurts

I used to be afraid of the pain letting go of the past would cause; until I realized how much pain holding on has caused ~ Steve Maraboli”

Are you afraid to take a risk to love? Or have you closed the door of your heart on any man or woman that knocks at it? “C’mon! Love is sweet; give him or her chance”. You should not allow your past to dictate your present. Take your mind off the past hurts, sometimes just thinking about something is enough to hurt you all over again. If you can take your mind off the past hurts, someday you will forget the hurt, the reason you cried, and the one who caused the pain. Then sanity would have been restored back to your life.


Fear is present when we forget that we are a part of God's divine design. Learning to experience authentic love means abandoning ego's insistence that you have much to fear and that you are in an unfriendly world. You can make the decision to be free from fear and doubt and return to the brilliant light of love that is always with you ~ Wayne Dyer”

An egocentric person thinks only of himself, without regard for the feelings or desires of others; self-centered. No man or lady is good enough for them because they have attached too much self-important to themselves.

Relationship skill

You may have challenges attracting a man or a woman if don't relate well. Some just have a phobia to relate. They always feel insecure when people are around them. You need to develop your relationship skill for you to attract your man or woman.

Low self –esteem

Low self-esteem may affect your relationship. It may make you unattractive to any man or woman. Having a low self-esteem makes you cheap. Men like women that have dignity and honor and not ladies that have lost their pride through sex.

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