Now that I am married, what next?

The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife ~ Barbara De Angelis

You may probably ask this question “now that I have married what next?” The hide and seek game is over. All the dribbling is now over because you have finally walked her down the aisle. You have waited and dreamed for this day to come. Now your dream has eventually come through as she is now your wife.

As the day goes by, you started having a feeling of what should be the next thing in your marriage. Don’t be encumbered with such a thought because the answer is already with you. 

Dear husband, go all out in your love for your wife – a love marked by giving, not getting. Your word must evoke her beauty. Everything you do and say should be designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant in sanctity. By doing so, you are doing your marriage a favor. Also, honor her and don’t deal with her treacherously.

You must know it is time to start investing in your home. A time to lay a solid foundation for the kind of home you have dreamt of: the peaceful and harmonious home you desire. Homes like this can be achieved by your tireless investment to the development of it. You must invest your time, money, affection, love, emotion and everything you have got to make your dream home come through. Don’t be like people who realized after many years of a marriage that the kind of home they have built is not what they dreamt of. 

Lastly, the leadership of your home is in your hands. A leader gives the model and structure to be followed. So you have to provide leadership to your wife not by domineering but by cherishing.

Dear wife, understand and support your husband. Most importantly, submit to your husband as he exercises leadership. Don’t give yourself to nagging. If he made some mistakes, learn to forgive and correct in love. Be proud of him and do appreciate him when he carries out his responsibilities well. 

“Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave ~ Martin Luther”

You are no longer two but one. So you and your wife must make sure you don’t allow negative influences in your marriage.  A negative influence can put asunder between you and your wife. It is your duty to defend the unity of your home. You must be vigilant and alert to any threat to your marriage. Also, there must not be a communication gap. Communication is very important because of its ability to foster unity. Through communication, you get to know each other well: you become best of friends. “Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife~ Franz Schubert”

A happy home is a desire of many but only a few actually have it. Couples that are ready to take responsibilities and defend the oneness of their home will enjoy their home.