I have come to realize that money is important in marriage.
Lack of it might put pressure on the healthiness of a marriage. I know what it
means to have and not to have in a marriage. Sometimes, I try to imagine
myself as the wife so as to understand how women feel when the man isn’t
financially buoyant. To be financially buoyant means you have the financial capability to meet your needs and take full responsibility of your family. The opposite is to be financially handicap or incapacitated.
What I see is a situation that isn’t palatable not only
for the woman but the man. The financial constraint can lead to a broken
home. Regardless of the importance of money, there is a kind of disdain for
women that make money a priority in marriage. For this reason, a lot of women
try to hide their feelings about the financial aspect of the marriage. They
save their face from being stigmatized. But they wish their husband is capable
financially.
Something happened not too long ago in a place I happened to
be. There is this guy who jokingly said to his head of unit who happen to be a
woman that “I want to marry your daughter”. I have an attitude of reading
peoples’ emotion, gesture and countenance during a conversation. The woman
reacted negatively at the joke and she said: “I suffered a lot on my daughter,
so I can’t allow her to marry you”. Of the truth, the woman labor so much on
her daughter. All of her children schooled abroad. It is not as if the guy
wasn’t okay but the woman believes the guy’s financial status doesn’t fit her
taste for her daughter. She has an expectation that must come to pass.
After the scene, I engaged in a deep thought on what
happened between the woman and the guy. Although, the guy was joking but the
woman’s response reveals her expectation about the kind of a husband she wants
for her daughter. I think parents want their children to live a better life
than what they have lived. Moreover, they want them to start their marriage on
a good note.
Can we say that the financial status of a man is the first
thing to look out for?
My daughter if money is what you looked for in a guy, you
are looking at the wrong thing. One thing I want you to understand is that
money is the product of values and worth of a man. True riches are the values a
man possesses. These values will definitely generate wealth. It is possible to
have money and be valueless, but it is not possible to have values and not have
money. You can predict a man’s future by the values he possesses and how he
trades with those values. You can predict
a man’s future by the values he possesses and by how he trades with those
values.
Dear mother, before you stop your daughter from getting
married to that ‘poor ‘man. Try to examine whether the man has a potential of
making wealth. Some guys are potential rich men but you just need to give them
time for the riches to materialize. It may be that he is at a stage of
self-development: a time whereby he is making himself resourceful. If the guy
is at that stage, please don’t be a stumbling block on your daughter’s way.
My dear daughter, look not at the present status of a man,
rather look at what he is capable of achieving in the future.
Note: A lazy man doesn’t deserve a wife because he can’t be
responsible. An irresponsible man isn’t worth calling a father.
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