It is your own volition to make a selection from a number of
alternatives. When it comes to choosing, you are responsible for the kind of
choice you made. And your choice depends on you. Although, your choice can be
influenced by some factors, which are:
Family background
Your background has an influence on your choice of partner.
For example, if you happen to have an irresponsible father then you will want
to be extra careful in your choice of partner. In addition, a woman from a wealthy
background may have difficulties getting along with a man from a poor
background. In this light, your background plays a major role in your choice of
partner.
Social exposure
Your exposure gives you a number of alternatives when you
are about to take a decision on who to marry. There is a way your social
exposure shapes your decision making: it may be positive or negative depending
on other factors you put in place to help your decision making. A man that is
socially exposed may not want to choose a woman who lacks exposure. Hence the
saying, “birds of a feather flocks together”
Education
Education is another factor that can affect your choice of
partner. It is a popular saying that education is light. Therefore the
enlightenment you have received shapes and conditioned your mind when it comes
to the choice of who to marry. Rarely will you find an educated woman getting
married to an uneducated man?
Religious belief
Religious belief also influences your choice of partner.
Every religion has its own teaching and ways of life. So the differences in the
teaching will shape your mind and form your decision.
Friends
Someone ones said, “Show me your friend and I will tell you
the kind of person you are”. The kind of friends you keep will have an
influence on your choice because friends are opinion molder. If you are moving
with high-class friends then the probability that your partner will be
high-class will be high and vice-versa.
Perception
How you view life will also influence your decision. Your
world view tells a lot about your choice of partner. A woman who views the
world as a place of fun will be attracted to a man who will make her world
funfair.
Ethnicity
Ethnicity is also a major factor that influences one's
choice of partner. The way one ethnic group views another ethnic group will
determine whether there can be inter-marriage between them. It is always
difficult to choose from an ethnic group that has been blacklisted. Such ethnic
group comes to one's mind when making relationship decision.
Examining the listed factor, one could say the quality of
your relationship is a function of your choice. A marital relationship is a
state of connectedness between two people. And it is established based on the
decision you and your partner made. Being in a relationship is a result of
one's choice of a partner which was fueled by some factors.
Therefore, before you make your choice, firstly, examine
those factors that may influence your choice of partner. And make sure they are
right factors that will guide you into making the right choice.
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