In
finding love, I think it's important to be patient. In being in a relationship,
I think it's important to be honest, to communicate, to respect and trust, and
to strive to give more than you take
~~Kina Grannis
A Relationship is a state of connectedness or a state of
mutual dealings. Human beings are created to relate and not to isolate. I have
discovered that great and successful people understood the power of
relationship and they banked on it to get results. Swami Vivekananda said “Relationships
are more important than life, but it is important for those relationships to
have life in them” According to an article published by the University of Minnesota “healthy relationships are a vital component
of health and wellbeing. There is compelling evidence that strong relationships
contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. Conversely, the health risks
from being alone or isolated in one's life are comparable to the risks
associated with cigarette smoking, blood pressure, and obesity”. The
importance of right relationship can’t be overemphasized. In other to get the
best out of a relationship you must find and nurture the right relationship.
How to find the right relationship:
Goal setting
Your goal in life can determine who will cross your path in
life. People that don't share in your dream will leave on their own accord
because they are a distraction. Goal setting will help you to filter out people
that are not worthy to be in your life. For instance, in a marital
relationship, there will be a chaos if the goal and aspiration of couples do
not align. James Cash Penney believes the best teamwork comes from men who are
working independently toward one goal in unison. This means that your goal is
one of the determining factors to find the right relationship.
Be valuable and lovable
People of like values easily connect because they have a
common ground. You must make a personal effort to develop yourself: nobody
wants a liability. Moreover, being lovable makes you attract people easily
because people like being around someone they are secured with and lively.
People with this attribute are never boring: they are gifted in creating an
enjoyable environment. I have discovered that people don’t just connect with
you until they see how valuable and lovable you are.
Seek and be ready to
connect
Whatsoever you look for is what you will find. People don’t
just come to your life by default you have to make conscious effort to locate
them. In your search, there are some values or attributes that you look out for
that will assist you to find the right partner or people: their belief system,
goals, aspiration, readiness to share ideas etc. These attributes are like a
compass that will navigate you to find the right relationship.
How to nurture the right
relationship
Be ready to share
A relationship is a mutual benefit and
not a one-way affair; the two of you must be ready to share. Moreover, you must
be ready to share more than what you have received. People that hoard like to
receive than to give: they are always collecting without having any input. It
is important to know that it is honorable to give than to receive. So try to
share what you have and your relationship will experience growth.
Communication
Communication is the life line of
any relationship. It accelerates the growth of relationships. You can’t get the
best out of a relationship if your relationship lacks effective communication. For
communication to be effective you and your partner must be ready to listen and
speak.
Commitment
You mind will always be where your
treasures are. Your steadfast fixity of purpose will help your relationship to
develop. Anything you are not committed to can’t work out well.
Are you lazy?
A lazy man can’t have a healthy
relationship because he can’t put up with the demands of it.
Any relationship that makes you feel insecure, lower your
self-esteem, makes life miserable for you and take advantage of you isn’t a
right relationship for you.
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