The aftermath effect of breakups can be sometimes damaging
or devastating. It is because of the emotional trauma or psychological
imbalance that makes the effect something to watch closely. Anything that has the
tendency to toy with your emotion has the tendency to affect your psychological
wellbeing. Some have been hurt beyond
normal because someone they love broke up with them. They think they have
invested so much in the relationship and that they don’t deserve such
treatment. The thought of investment is what normally hurt people after a
breakup. Often you hear words like “I have invested my time, emotion, trust,
body etc. into the relationship”. If such thought goes unchecked, it can lead
to behavioral changes that may not be healthy for any other relationships such
people find themselves in.
I have also had breakup in my life before I found my queen who
I am now married to. So I know what it means to breakup up with someone you
love. The thought of loss or a sense of betrayal that feels your mind is enough
to throw you off balance emotionally. One thing I am sure of is that for every
problem there is a way it can be managed and handled. Some of the ways to managed
breakups and to get back to your normal life will be discussed below. That you
ended a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t start another one that will be more
adventitious and rewarding than the one that you just ended. Never greet
relationship goodbye because of the sad experience of breakup that you had. We
are created to relate, to love and be loved.
Move farther
I have discovered that distance is a threat to a relationship
and I have been made to understand that out of sight is often out of mind.
The memories may remain stronger as you see the person often but fades away
when you are out of his/her sight. Even a relationship that has not experienced
breakup can be threatened if there is a distance between partners. Distance helps
the memories to fade away and assist you in picking up yourself.
Time
Time is a great tool that heals wound. I have discovered via
my own experience that the emotional imbalance you experience changes with
time. I will also advise that you should
not allow such experience make you lose your life. You get better and refreshed
when you sleep over such issue because sleep is a medicine. Try to tell
yourself that “it is a matter of time, this experience will go”.
Engage yourself
It is a popular saying that a mind that is not occupied with
good thoughts attracts all kinds of thought. Your present engagement will
determine your present thought. Try not to be idle, try not to be alone during
this time. It is a time to read books you love, listen to your favorite music,
surround yourself with interesting people, exercise more, go on an adventitious
vacation etc. Enjoy all the beautiful things nature has in stock for you during
such time. Don’t allow the thought of broken a broken relationship to affect
the essence of your being because life is to be enjoyed.
Don’t rush into
another relationship
The greatest mistake you can do is to start another
relationship immediately after the breakup because the effect of the experience
may still be in your heart. Most people believed that starting another
relationship will immediately heal them of the damage the previous one caused
them. There is a need for you to give yourself time to learn from your breakup,
heal the wound and make sure you are fit to start another one. You have only
one heart; don’t allow it to be broken several
times or don’t allow it to be toyed with. I know you will want to be careful not
to allow the breakup experience to reoccur again. So don’t rush!
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