A distance
relationship is an intimate relationship
between partners who are geographically isolated from one another. Partners in
a distance relationship face geographic separation and lack of face-to-face
contact. The relationship may seem difficult to keep but it can work if
you are sure that your partner is sincere and value the relationship. I can’t
suggest you go into a distance relationship if you aren’t sure the relationship
will end in marriage. Most of the distance relationships I have seen are waste
of time and emotion because it ended in a breakup.
For example, my first distance relationship crashed because of distance barrier and I wasn't knowledgeable enough to sustain it. Although, my second
relationship was a distance relationship but I managed it well and it ended in marriage. Although, I wasn’t insecure by the distance in my
second relationship and I didn’t lose my sleep for once . The two relationships I
had was a distance relationship and I have gained some lessons from them.
Moreover, you have to understand some facts before you go
into it and get yourself prepared for it. People are afraid of distance
relationship because of lack of trust in their partner. Once you know that you
can’t trust him/her, bid the relationship a good farewell. Some of the facts
you need to consider before getting into a distance relationship or if you are
in it:
There must be trust
There must be a level of confidence that you must have in
your partner. If you notice he/she likes flirting around, you need to have a rethink
if you can still go on with the relationship. Trust should be the foundation of
any relationship; once it is missing the relationship will be under threat. Lack
of trust breeds insecurity in any relationship. The reason people lose their
peace in a relationship is because the essential ingredient of a healthy relationship
is lacking.
Sacrifice
You and your partner must be ready to sacrifice your time
and resources for your relationship to work. One of the sacrifices you and your partner
will have to make is ability to communicate well, but you must avoid excessive
communication. This will help to salvage the distance barrier. Any relationship will grow if there is no lack
of communication because communication is the heartbeat of any relationship.
Moreover, you and your partner must be ready to check on each other as at when
required.
Behavioral change
Sensing a behavioral change is a bad signal if you are in a
distance relationship. If you notice that your partner is getting cold about
the relationship, try to save your relationship. The first thing you have to do
is to find out from him or her, the cause or reason for the coldness. In case the response wasn’t satisfactory, you have to brace up, for the relationship
is about to die.
Value
You and your partner must value the relationship. I believe
that if your partner values the relationship, he or she will do everything
possible to keep and sustain the relationship: your mind will be where your treasure is.
Stay positive
Stay away from negative thought and don’t allow unnecessary
fear. Be thankful for the relationship and enjoy every bit of it. See the
distance as a blessing and not as a barrier.
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